The Wonders of a Solo Date

I have always HATED being alone. For the first two and a half years of my life I screamed in the car because I had to sit in the back seat by myself (I think my mother nearly killed me haha). However, being alone with yourself and your thoughts has great mental benefits as an adult especially towards “finding yourself”. As our 20s are supposed to be our time to “find ourselves”, I’ve been working hard in my mid-twenties to do just that.

Part of my strategy to do this has been to take myself out on dates. I’m not going to say that I’m super good at this concept but I’ve enjoyed it so far. Going out with just myself gives me time to think about what really makes me happy since I am a huge people-pleaser. It also gives me time to think about my future and what I want my life to look like and how I think I can make that happen on a personal and professional level. If I were the journaling-type this is probably a time where I would journal too. All of this happens while I am at dinner when you would in theory being getting to know the person across the table from you. However, I also make sure that I plan a fun activity too. I usually lean towards going to movies that I can’t convince my friends or boyfriend to go to with me but I have also done shopping or laying on the beach with a book.

Another thing that I always make sure to do is to dress up or at least look put together. My thought process on this is two-fold: A) I enjoy getting dressed up and it makes me happy and B) you’d dress up for a normal date for a random person so why wouldn’t you do the same for yourself?!

I’ve found that this has been super helpful in my “finding myself” stage of life but I’d love to hear any suggestions you gals may have!

On Wednesday We Wear Pink

Hey lovelies!

I love a good Mean Girls quote as much as the next 90s girl. And truthfully, I love this shirt just about as much.

This shirt comes in 16 colors and in standard and plus sizes.

Also, Dick’s Sporting Goods is having a sale right now so they are buy one get one 50% off (and some are even an additional 15% off). I’m literally going to grab a couple more colors while they’re on sale because I love them so much.

I bought this polo (and 3 other colors) when I became a manager at work and wanted to a little bit more of a professional look even in a casual environment. These shirts make getting ready in the morning a breeze. I don’t have to worry about an undergarment situation, so I just throw it on and go. (I will say that the white is a teensy but sheer though)

I’m wearing a small and I really like the fitted cut. This color is the rose violet. However, having a little bit of a longer torso, sometimes it does pop out of the tuck when I lean over.

As a girly-girl in male dominated field, I love that this (especially in this color) lets me still express my femininity.

Happy shopping!

15 things I’ve learned in the last 25 years

Today is my 25th birthday. I am officially a quarter of a century old *cue the quarter life crisis* 😂

All kidding aside, I have compiled a list of the things I’ve learned over the last quarter of a century. So, without further ado and in no particular order…here we go!

    The answer is always no, if you don’t ask the question.
    Reach out to people. You will never make or keep any friends if you don’t put yourself “out there”.
    Just because it’s not what you want, doesn’t mean it’s not what you need.
    Listen to your mom, she really does know what she’s talking about.
    Take a breath and think about how your audience will receive what you’re saying.
    Never turn down birthday cake, celebrations of loved ones lives are worth the calories.
    Better to be over dressed than under dressed.
    Move like you love your body.
    If you don’t know for sure it’s right, it’s probably wrong.
    You can only dislike something after you’ve tried it.
    Don’t complain about how someone does something unless you’re willing to contribute to a better solution.
    Caring for another living thing will help you care about yourself.
    The work will always be there. Do what HAS to be done and go home.
    Moving outside you’re comfort zone may not change your life immediately, but it will change for the better.
    When it feels like your life is falling apart it might actually be falling together.

Well there you have it, folks! That is the culmination of the last 25 years for me. What wisdom have you acquired??

10 Travel tips by yours truly

Hey lovelies!

I don’t know about y’all but I LOVE to travel. I love eating at new restaurants and seeing new things and having new experiences. However, I despise is packing. Literally, I still have not completely unpacked from my girls trip to NYC THREE WEEKS AGO. I am trying to be more diligent about unpacking but it seems futile when I feel like I’m going somewhere every other weekend!

Keeping all of this in mind, I have collected some of my top travel and packing tips.

1. Always make room in your suitcase to pack the cat 😻

Just kidding! This isn’t a tip as much as a shameless excuse to show y’all this adorable picture of my fur-baby. She loves to sit in my suitcase while I pack haha.


It is astounding to me how smart humans can be about some things and how completely stupid we can be about others. Case and point, why did it take us so long to figure out that 4 wheels were FAR superior to 2?!? Dramatics aside, 4 wheeled suitcases were a game changer for me and how I travel between modes of transportation.

3. Don’t pack a bag you can’t carry.

Look, I love having a new outfit to change into every 6 hours while on vacation as much as the next girl. However, no one wants to be that person threatening other passengers lives as they try to hoist their carryon into the over head compartment. No one likes that person; don’t be that person.

4. If you can help it, don’t check a bag.

From a financial standpoint, if you don’t have the secret password or credit card for the airline its going to cost you $25-50. Also, it’s another thing you absolutely should be able to carry if you had to (or lift at the very least). The more baggage you have, the less mobile you can be to go adventuring right off the airplane (or bus or train or car). If you must check a bag, make sure you can live without it for a day or two in case it gets lost.

5. Don’t pack uni-taskers if you can help it.

Uni-tasker is not my word. I stole it from Alton Brown who used it to describe kitchen tool that had only one purpose. When packing, think about it as the fancy bralette that you need to go with this one top or the shorts that only look good with one top. I don’t subscribe to the capsule wardrobe idea but I think being able to mix and match a few items together and get several different outfits is key to making points 3 & 4 possible.

6. Pack workout clothes

I’m not saying you need to go to a spin class or anything while you are on vacation. What I am saying is that there are many views in the world that you need to break a sweat to really appreciate.

7. TSA Pre-check

If you’re going to be doing a lot of air travel this can be such a time saver. $85 for a 5 year membership means that you don’t have to remove anything from your bags and you don’t have to remove you jacket or shoes. I don’t know how it took me so long to figure this out but I think it is so worth it.

8. Understand the weather of your destination

It seems like such a simple thing but understanding the components of the weather you’re going to be living in while on your trip should influence how you pack. I mean this in For example: 80 degrees in Phoenix can feel ridiculously different than 80 degrees in New Orleans because of the humidity or lack thereof. Knowing this can really change your enjoyment of your outfits (or let you know that you’ll want a change of clothes from day to night because you’ll have sweated through your clothes haha).

9. Fold jeans, roll shirts

You’d be surprised how much space you can save if you tightly roll your shirts. However, I think a tried and true fold is best for jeans be case of their thickness.

10. Don’t experience your destination through the lens of your camera

I am obviously a proponent of taking pictures to commemorate experiences. However, while exploring a new place or while on trips I try to make sure that I am “present” and not watching things happen around me by watching my phone as I try to capture a picture or video. If your going to be somewhere, BE THERE.

So, there you have it. Ten of the best travel tips known to humankind! Alright, that is probably a stretch but I do believe them all to be true and useful.

Have any that I missed? Leave them in the comments!